3 Changes That Signal Your Relationship Could Be Heading For Trouble — And How to Avoid It

Whether ‘life changes’ are positive or negative, they can have an effect on your relationships.

Tom MacKay
Hello, Love
Published in
6 min readJul 30, 2020

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Marie slumped in the chair weeping desperately. She’d come to see me because her ‘perfect’ relationship didn’t seem so perfect anymore. Ten years earlier she had married her childhood sweetheart, Ben. For nine years, she’d felt loved and supported. In fact, she said she couldn’t have been happier. However, suddenly everything changed. Her husband started working late every night and would often have to be away during the weekends. He no longer left her little notes telling her how much he loved her and would only bring her flowers after she’d been in tears after one of their now frequent arguments.

Having been so close for such a long time, what happened?

Ben had been working as a manager in a Pharma company for several years. His relationship with Marie had been the main priority in his life. Work was a means to help them enjoy life together and travel to exotic places together. He’d never been overly ambitious, always believing in working to live, not living to work.

Then one day a senior management role became available. It offered a lot more money, a…

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Tom MacKay
Hello, Love

Psychologist, psychotherapist and musician. Passionate about helping people achieve more fulfilling lives and relationships: therelationshipmaze.com