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3 Reasons Dismissive Avoidants Struggle Responding Quickly to Breakups
Understand the behaviors at their core.
By reading this article, I know you have dealt with the frustration of having a dismissive avoidant partner.
On the flip side, you could want to gain clarity on the effect breakups have had on you in the past as the dismissive-avoidant.
Don’t worry; we’ll kill two birds with one stone.
I know the constant cycle of isolation can frustrate both parties in this scenario.
It becomes more troubling when dealing with the behaviors during a breakup.
We all grow and build a set of triggers and behaviors as we experience relationships.
The issue comes when we have not created a set of positive responses to avoid the downfalls that come with emotional responses.
It is ok to let your emotions hit you; it’s a healthy response to negative experiences.
The tide turns negative when we become overwhelmed, and these responses transition into shutting down.
While it is dangerous for anyone to display negative responses, the dismissive-avoidant must recognize the reasons they struggle.
Volatility is a killer
If you know the triggers for the dismissive-avoidant, then you know near the top of the list is volatility in their relationships.
They have seen volatility in their childhood or as they experience relationships in their adult lives.
It can come in the form of a toxic relationship or an on-again-off-again relationship.
But most people have experienced one of those, most likely, right?
For the DA, it triggers a need for safety, and they cannot see the cause of that breach as an outlet (you).
It is why they retreat inward and become so distant you think they are ghosting you.
If you are the DA, adjust your mind frame and realize that relationships will never be perfect.
You are going to reach hurdles. You are going to hit troubling times.
