5 Clear Signs of Someone With a Disorganized Attachment Style
When with love comes anxiety and fear.
According to the attachment theory, developed by British psychologist and psychiatrist John Bowlby, we all have a specific attachment style, one that is formed through the way our parents — or caregivers — cared for us when we were little.
Your attachment style is how you act and interact with romantic partners within relationships and there are four major styles of it: secure, anxious/insecure, disorganized, and avoidant.
Knowing your attachment style can help you get in tune with your emotions and recognize where they come from, understand why you keep dating the same people, and ultimately, develop a healthier, more secure style.
On the other hand, knowing your partner’s attachment style can help you better understand how they function in your relationship and choose a more appropriate response to their actions/behavior.
Now, the most rare and often overlooked one is the disorganized (also called fearful-avoidant) attachment style. It is mainly characterized by mistrust, fear, and inner conflict and develops when a child’s parents or caregivers become a source of fear instead of a source of safety.
