5 Emotions Your Avoidant Partner Feels When You “Break Up”

But they won’t ever tell you.

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I have loved an avoidant. With all my heart. And soul. I didn’t only wholeheartedly fall in love with her. I also profoundly understood her, her avoidance, and everything in between.

And when I say I loved and understood her, I’m not talking about months of infatuation and passion. I’m talking about years of hard conversations and empathy for each other.

So, this makes me the perfect person to write this article. I have seen all this and experienced it firsthand. I am also a nerd who cannot sleep at night without finding answers to what I don’t understand. So, I did my homework.

Avoidants, rest assured that I’m not here to bash or judge you. And for the partners of avoidants, understand your partner but never neglect yourself or your own needs.

Here’s how, exactly, this article will help you both.

If you have been with an avoidant long enough:

You know the feelings of frustration when you can’t for the life of you figure out what’s going on in their mind (or heart). They don’t share or communicate and leave you midway without explanations.