5 Surprisingly Loving Ways To Leave Your Lover
Breakups don’t have to be messy. Lion Goodman reveals the art of clean endings.
By Lion Goodman
Simon & Garfunkel offered advice through their 1970’s hit song, “Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover.” Included were “Step out the back, Jack,” and “Make a new plan, Stan.” This is decent advice if you need to escape from a dangerous relationship, but forty years later, what’s the best advice for leaving a relationship?
Unfortunately, none of us took the class, “Relationships 101.” If we had, we might have learned how to intelligently begin, sustain, and end a relationship well. When we learn to drive a car, we study, practice, and we’re tested for our competence. Relationships are much more dangerous than driving. We can have sex, fall in love, get married, and bring children into the world without any previous experience or qualifications. No wonder most relationships fail!
And when relationships end, they usually end badly. One, or both partners, experience pain and suffering. There is a better way. The way of integrity.
Most of us received our relationship training by closely observing a dysfunctional couple: our parents. They, too, missed out on that Relationships 101 course. If your parents divorced, it was most…
