5 Things A Relationship Will Never Be Able To Give You

Sometimes love is not enough.

Shirin
Hello, Love

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We all love love. We dream about it. We search for it.

So much of our happiness depends on our relationships with others — as a social species, we’re hard-wired for it. But sometimes, being in a secure relationship with a deeply loving and trusting partner is not enough. Love is not a magic pill, as much as we’d like to think it is. And even so, there’s only so much a pill can do.

Love will make you feel as light as a feather; it will make your heart swell up to the point of explosion; it will make everything shine a little brighter; it will inspire you. But it won’t do any of the actual work for you.

I believe the most fulfilling romantic relationships are the synergistic kinds. The type of relationship where two independent and self-sufficient individuals come together to add to each other’s quality of life. In doing that, they create something beautiful that they couldn’t have created on their own. In other words, 1+1=3.

But in order to get to that point, we need to make sure we’re in a deeply loving and trusting relationship with ourselves first. Because one thing’s for sure: you can be in the most amazing romantic relationship but if you haven’t put in the internal work for yourself, you will…

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Shirin
Hello, Love

I sing the stars and I sing the rain; I sing the blood and I sing the pain. Find me on Thought Catalog or say hi at: incantations.by.shirin@gmail.com