5 Ways You Sabotage Your Relationships Without Even Realizing It
You might be in love, but that isn’t enough if you’re letting fear and old patterns destroy what you have together.
I have always been my own worst critic. I’m harder on myself way more often than anyone else could be. I imagine many of us are hyper-critical in relationships because we share a common trait; fear.
The presence of fear is the strongest obstacle a relationship can face. A few weeks ago, I was caught up in a hate-watch session of the hit A&E show, Married at First Sight. On it was a couple who had been matched for obvious reasons. They were both attractive (and attracted to one another) and still held that bold ambition for their young lives. What they also had in common was the acute awareness of how being abandoned in their childhood affected them as adults. For Tres, it led him to crave love, both as a giver and a receiver. But his wife, Vanessa allowed fear to keep the invisible wall up. The more Tres would try to pull her close and assure her that he wasn’t going to give up on their marriage, the more she’d shut down. At one point, she even left the house. Their fights mirrored some of the insecurities we all have carried into relationships.
