6 Things That Show You Are Not Claiming Your Relationship

Avoidance of these guarantee major relationship issues — such as cheating.

Once upon a time I was dating a man who broke my heart. Granted we have all been through some sort of heartbreak of some sort, and these events can certainly play with one’s self-esteem and confidence. Lately I have been working with a slew of individuals around the world who are going through just this event, break-up and loss. ’Tis the season for break-ups and easy hook-ups. Every holiday season holds these two events in them for all too many. Today I want to discuss the topic of claiming the relationship that you are in and six seemingly “little” things that lead to destruction and failure in any serious, committed relationship that the majority of people can get trapped in doing.

Our intimate union with another person is to be something special, it holds with it on the front side (the newlywed phase which lasts 6 months — 3 years) passion, excitement, curiosity, deep love and affection, as well as appreciation and a desire to be with this other being to the maximum level. During this time, we are getting to know each other, we are bonding and all the connective chemicals that support this event are in full flow. Then comes the “you’re familiar” phase, where we start to allow outside events and people to influence our relationship more and we start to feel like we do not have to work so hard to keep what we got. We start to trust that the other person is just…