7 Distinct Habits That Happy Couples Have in Common

How to make your relationship sizzle.

Leah Njoki
Dec 17, 2020 · 8 min read
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Their Eyes Are Set on the Prize.

The other day my husband and I had to make a crucial decision about something. I opposed his idea. However, he went ahead and did it anyway. As it turns out, I was right. We ended up in a terrible situation after that. I bit my tongue a hundred times because I wanted was to scream the dreadful words, “I told you so!” before rolling my eyes.

It’s Never “I” for Them.

About a year ago, I met June and Dan, and although they’d been together for only four months, it was as if they’d been together for years. Halfway through the conversation, Dan said, “We’re renovating our house this weekend.”

They Air Dirty Linens.

My aunt is a chatterbox. Last Christmas, she was in the middle of narrating an intimate story about an ex-boyfriend when her husband strolled in. Oops! I hope he didn’t hear that. I recall thinking. All he said was, “Oh, is it the same story about Jack again?” My jaw dropped.

They Remember the Green Neon Socks.

It’s a crime to forget your spouse’s birthday. Nobody forgets. At least we hope so! Your partner expects you to show up with a wrapped gift on the same date every year. However, happy couples have discovered a much nicer way to charm each other.

They Lock Horns.

Why in the world would a seemingly loving couple argue? This one defies logic. Shouldn’t it be all sunshine and rainbows all the time? And yet, surprisingly, arguments are a common characteristic of a strong relationship. They are muscles muscles strengthening your relationship.

They Sprinkle Compliments Often.

Two days ago, as I waited for my train home, I overheard an old man telling his wife, “You’re always beautiful, but when you tie your hair like that, I simply can’t take my eyes off you.”

They Uphold the Golden Rule.

Happy couples uphold the golden rule: Respect. But let’s back up a little bit and break down what respect in a relationship actually looks like because the term “respect” is one horse that has been beaten to death. Depending on the situations we find ourselves in, we define it in many ways.

Final Thoughts.

A happy relationship is the dream of many of us. Fortunately, you can attract and transform your current one to the degree where you and your lover bask in its warmth and love. Most of these habits aren’t that hard to learn. Others take time. You might have to shift your mindset a little bit.

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Leah Njoki

Written by

Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Writer on Love, Relationships & Self-Improvement| Featured on The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, Ladders|Blog: ownyourspark.com

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Leah Njoki

Written by

Dreamer&Fitness Enthusiast | Writer on Love, Relationships & Self-Improvement| Featured on The Good Men Project, Thought Catalog, Ladders|Blog: ownyourspark.com

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

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