7 Unmistakable Ways You Self-Sabotage Your Relationships
When people become annoyed or yell or slam drawers, I recoil in fear. I shut down. My body shakes and I don’t speak. I wait for the storm to pass.
What if my words or actions exacerbate their anger? What if their reason for being angry turns into something I’ve done?
I rarely know how to handle conflict healthily. I’m terrified of it. I want it to pass, but I also feel tired after all of that waiting and hoping.
Likely for similar reasons, I struggle to feel good enough. People have hurt me so much in life and in relationships that I don’t feel worthy of goodness sometimes. I’m quick to blame myself when I perceive someone’s upset, whether that perception is accurate. I’m quick to think others don’t like me when in reality, they’re just not talking in their peppiest voice because they’ve had a long day.
I’m learning that some of these issues I struggle with have become ways I self-sabotage my relationships, and I’m working on fixing that. Let’s talk some of those ways and how we can address them.
