8 Quotes That Help With Breadcrumbing Relationships

Breadcrumbing speaks more about the person who‘s doing it than about you.

Ashley Broadwater
Hello, Love

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I can’t remember a time when I didn’t want a romantic relationship; I wanted one so badly and for so long. “I feel like once I find a boyfriend, I’ll be fully happy. That’s the one puzzle piece that’s missing,” I told people.

So, when I found a guy who found me attractive and wanted to hang out often, I felt thrilled. I became more and more excited as time passed and he continued to want to hang out with me.

But then his texts became sporadic, his attention sparse. My mood changed along with it. I identified as the cliche in which a girl waits by the phone, hoping her crush would call, even though days pass before he does. I often felt needy, sad and worrisome.

He would respond to me every few days or so, keeping my attraction and hope alive. However, each time, silence followed those positive moments.

We can describe this phenomenon as “breadcrumbing,” which is the act of giving someone attention — aka, bread crumbs — only when they’re losing interest to keep them holding onto your relationship without having to put in much effort yourself. Breadcrumbers essentially use another person to make themselves feel better, to give themselves…

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Ashley Broadwater
Hello, Love

Freelance writer on multiple platforms. On Medium: writing tips + relationships. UNC-CH Journalism + Media. Newsletter + more: www.linktr.ee/ashleybroadwater