9 Painful Signs That Your Partner Is No Longer In Love With You

And what you can do to decide whether to salvage your relationship.

Elizabeth Kasujja
Feb 25 · 11 min read
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“And all those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the hard work of making their relationships happy.” — Linda Miles

So how do you decide if you have chances of getting that “happily ever after” with your partner?

How can you tell when your partner is no longer in love with you?

1. They no longer allow you to see their texts

“Most relationships die not from natural causes, but from selfishness, neglect, lies, lack of consideration, and secrets.” — Lizzie Natesky

2. They use their phone a lot when you are together, but barely respond to your messages or phone calls when you are apart.

“In pure innocent love, there is no longer present contradictions.” — Kristian Goldmund Aumann

3. They no longer share as much as they used to with you.

“You are a diamond, but some people prefer rhinestones, and that’s okay.” — Unknown

4. They gaslight you

“They do not lie to you because the truth will hurt your feelings; rather, the truth might provoke you to make choices that do not serve their interests.” — Lizzie Natesky

5. They do not love you.

“And while she never felt quite normal, she was nowhere near crazy; she just loved too much. Choosing to see the world through her heart, instead of through her eyes.” — Jessica Michelle

6. You feel emotionally cheated

“And you promise yourself you will never fall so hard again until you meet someone who makes the fall feel like flying.” — Nikita Gill

7. They keep comparing you to someone else all the time

Comparison is a thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt

8. They pick unnecessary fights

“Misery no longer loves company. Nowadays, it insists on it.” — Russell Wayne Baker

9. They act uneasy and uncomfortable around you

“Love is disgusting when you no longer possess yourself.” — Pola Negri

Ok, so this list confirms your fears, and you want to confront your partner. What now?

“When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” — Victor Frankl

“You have to learn to get up from the table when love is no longer being served.” — Nina Simone

And now your thoughts…

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

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