A Healthy Bedroom vs. A Dead Bedroom

When you know the difference.

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What’s the difference between a healthy bedroom and a dead one?

• Dead Bed — Partner never looks at you naked or even glances. You feel invisible.
  Healthy Bed — Partner always takes a look or tries to squeeze you.
• Dead Bed — Partner never makes you “feel” beautiful.
  Heathly Bed — Partner makes you feel sexy and cherished.
• Dead Bed — Defensive about his porn use.
  Healthy Bed — Willing to look at his habits and understands the dangers of excessive porn consumption.
• Dead Bed — Low libido and insecure about talking about their lack of sex drive.
  Healthy Bed — Willing to discuss all things sexual with an open tone.
• Dead Bed — Selfish lover. Your pleasure is met with indifference.
  Healthy Bed — Giving lover. Wants to see your pleasure and share the experience.
• Dead Bed — Uses porn as a stand-in when he’s horny. Easier to masturbate.
  Healthy Bed — Initiates sex if he’s horny and chooses sex over masturbation.
• Dead Bed — Constantly moving the goalposts to avoid sex.
  Healthy Bed — Sets expectations about the frequency with dialogue.
• Dead Bed — Sex is “work,” and too much effort.
  Healthy Bed — Sex is never “work” and no effort is too much.