Am I Too Intimidating to Be Attractive?

Are you unintentionally intimidating to women? Learn how to change perceptions and improve your chances in dating!

The Good Men Project
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By Harris O’Malley

Doc,

I’ve been wondering if I might be coming across as intimidating to women.

I’m a man in my mid-thirties who has never been on a date, despite receiving numerous compliments that many men would envy. Honestly, it’s almost a daily occurrence at this point. On paper, I tick several boxes: I’m tall, dark, and handsome, well-groomed, fit, have a great career, and a confident demeanor. I’m also seen as someone fun and safe to be around. I’m not spectacular by any means, but I’d say I’m well put together. My friends and acquaintances often tell me I should be having success in the romance department, yet I struggle to connect with women on a deeper level, if I even meet them at all. I’ve been told a few times that I might be intimidating and that women might be shy around me.

The thing is, I do get along well with women and have a circle of friends mostly made up of them. These relationships formed through my own efforts, as it’s easy for me to chat with women in casual settings, and I regularly hang out with a few. However, these friends are all unavailable, and I seem

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