Are You Playing a Zero Chance Hand with Your Heart?
Zero sum games lead to complete loss.
COUNTRIES PRACTICE ZERO SUMS
A zero-sum game is what humans are good at. In our instincts we make war, anger and violence. We see this all throughout history. I need little citation for a consensus to agree Humans make war frequently.
Currently, we are watching a high stakes zero sum game in Ukraine. Ukraine wants all of its territory back. Russia wants to keep everything it has taken. As a result, you get violence. This violence is rooted in the idea of zero sum. It is an all or nothing approach.
No compromise. No surrender. No retreat.
The cost?
Happiness, peace, security and well…any other admirable condition we value. It is unfortunate on many levels but the one I find most unfortunate is when this tendency to make war enters romantic relationships.
Due to non-agreement on the timing of terms agreed I was literally told, “This means war.”
The cause? No bickering over the terms. The terms were completely agreed upon. They were one sided and dictated. Due to my desire to love through the divorce I agreed. It wasn’t about right or wrong. It was about how I wanted to be remembered for treating her. Even if it was…
