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Avoidants Will Never Share These 5 Dark Thoughts With You
A tour inside avoidants’ subconscious mind (to help you understand them AND to help them heal)
I loved an avoidant for 7 years. And still do. I saw the good, bad, and ugly.
I want to share some of the ugly with you. Why? Because looking at the darkness long enough and not shying away from it can help you heal, whether you’re the avoidant or their partner.
Before starting our tour inside avoidants’ subconscious minds, we must clear a popular misconception. It will set the stage for everything we’ll cover.
People think avoidants are scared of commitment, vulnerability, and closeness. I’m here to tell you that’s not true. To be precise, it’s only partly true.
Avoidants are NOT afraid of commitment, or are they?
It’s not a mystery that avoidants are terrified of intimacy, closeness, and commitment. Almost everybody knows this. Heck, avoidants themselves will tell you, probably straight away, that they’re scared of these things.
And even if they don’t, you will start noticing it after a while.
However, those are not the real fears that keep avoidants up at night. They’re not the…
