Breaking Down the Infamous INFJ Door Slam
The door doesn’t just close — it slams in your face.
Introverted. Intuitive. Feeling. Judging. These are the key traits of someone with an INFJ Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). They are considered the Advocate of the personality types. This is how they are described in the assessment:
Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.
While they have many positive traits, there is one that gives them a bad reputation: the door slam.
The door slam is similar to a ghosting.
The person doing the door slam abruptly shuts down in a relationship or ends it entirely. It seems sudden enough that the other person often feels blindsided by it.
We, the INFJs of the world, get a bad rap. The door slam isn’t actually sudden at all. We give plenty of warning that it’s coming. It’s just that the other person doesn’t care until it’s too late.
