Breaking Down the Infamous INFJ Door Slam

The door doesn’t just close — it slams in your face.

Crystal Jackson
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Introverted. Intuitive. Feeling. Judging. These are the key traits of someone with an INFJ Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). They are considered the Advocate of the personality types. This is how they are described in the assessment:

Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

While they have many positive traits, there is one that gives them a bad reputation: the door slam.

The door slam is similar to a ghosting.

The person doing the door slam abruptly shuts down in a relationship or ends it entirely. It seems sudden enough that the other person often feels blindsided by it.

We, the INFJs of the world, get a bad rap. The door slam isn’t actually sudden at all. We give plenty of warning that it’s coming. It’s just that the other person doesn’t care until it’s too late.

The door slam method happens after exhaustion or…