Conscious Couples Break Up Too

Sometimes you can’t work it out, talk it out — or bone it out.

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By Jewels Rivers

I once watched a conscious couple break up.

They weren’t the type to hurl insults or storm out over whose turn it was to do the dishes. They didn’t weaponize silence or keep score of who cared more. They were the kind of couple who actually sat with presence instead of defensiveness, who could name their projections before they became daggers, who tried — really tried — to meet each other without turning love into a battlefield.

And still, it ended.

Meanwhile, there I was in the corner like an unpaid extra in a Nicholas Sparks movie — red-eyed, mascara streaked, clutching tissues like they were sacred scripture. At one point, I even blurted out a trembling, “Can you work it out, bone it out — ANYTHING?”

Spoiler: nope. They could not.

The Myth of Forever

Here’s the thing I realized watching them: conscious relationships don’t guarantee forever.

They don’t promise rocking chairs on a porch at age 80 just because you’ve mastered eye contact, can name your childhood triggers, and have impeccable communication skills. Consciousness isn’t a ticket to permanence…