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Dating Is a Journey Until You Reach Your Destination

Are you being 100% you, or trying to portray someone else, someone you’d like to be?

The Good Men Project
Hello, Love
4 min readJan 12, 2025

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By John McElhenney

I am not all that enthusiastic about being back in the dating pool. (Oh snap!) But, it’s a good reset period. Here are a few updates on my path back toward loving arms.

  1. Can you imagine it?
  2. Do they inspire?
  3. Do they show immediate interest?
  4. There is no question at the end of the “hello date”
  5. You are ready to jump in

In the morass that is online dating, you can actually learn some important things about yourself and your preferences. I tend to lean toward thin (I’m not) and dark hair. I look for joy in their profiles. I observe what they put out as important. Boob shots. No. Alcohol as a preference. No need to show us your margarita. Sunglasses are hiding what? A lifetime of excess cannot be repaired with surgery or fake eyelashes.

Know What You Are Bringing To the Party

It’s important to outline, even just for yourself, what you bring to a successful relationship. Here’s what I think I show in my profile. Fit. Creative. Aspirational. Romantic. Joy.

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