Does It Matter That I Don’t Like Your Partner?

Why I’m conflicted about staying silent versus voicing my opinion.

Ellen McRae
Feb 25 · 6 min read
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“Do you like my boyfriend?”

I remember looking at my friend Julie, with her impatient eyes staring a hole through my core. She wanted to know, desperately. She was a heartbeat away from begging, the undignified type that ends in tears and binge eating.

What is in it for me to share my opinion?

What do I have to gain by saying my honest, unfiltered thoughts of him?

What does she gain by knowing my opinion?

Though I conclude there is more risk than reward in answering this question, I want to know why Julie is asking.

Does my opinion represent truth or fact?

Does my opinion point out facts about her partner or is it the way I view him? My experience with Julie’s boyfriend is my own. I have preferences about how people behave. I have feelings about who Julie should date.

Everyone needs to make their own decisions

I avoid triangle relationships. The plutonic threeway between a couple and their interrupting friend. In most romantic relationships, there are two people, and that is more than enough.

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Ellen McRae

Written by

Relationships. Drama. Gossip. Innuendo. Bad Dates. Failures. Learning about life/business/love the hard way// https://ellenjellymcrae.com/

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Ellen McRae

Written by

Relationships. Drama. Gossip. Innuendo. Bad Dates. Failures. Learning about life/business/love the hard way// https://ellenjellymcrae.com/

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

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