Forget about Love Languages and Dig into These 4 Attachment Styles
Understand attachment theory and its effects on relationships.
Attachment is defined as a “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings” Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss: Volume I. Attachment. London: Hogarth Press.
You often view your failed relationships through the lenses of what was missing or not bringing you fulfillment. Some of you have continued in on-again, off-again relationships to “give it another chance” as you struggle to understand what is not working.
One issue is that we often revisit relationships by thinking about our personal needs instead of our emotional needs.
This is when attachment theory comes into play.
It has become popular to think about your needs through the 5 love languages. (words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service.)
While this is a measure of your personal needs developed through your dating experiences, it fails to cover your emotional needs, which formed in your childhood and formed your attachment style.
As we dig into attachment styles, we will dig into what they are, how they present themselves in your relationships, and how they affect…
