Having a Contingency Plan Partner Isn’t Micro-Cheating
It’s just cheating.
Human behavior has always been fascinating to me. It’s likely the reason I gravitated toward the study of psychology and an eventual career as a counselor. I wanted to know what made people the way they are, what influenced the choices they made, and how people change (or don’t).
When I observe a strange behavior, I don’t just make a bunch of assumptions about it. I reflect on it. I research it. And sometimes, like today, I call it out for what it is — and what it isn’t.
Having a Contingency Plan for Relationships
Recently, a man I know created a post on social media about how much he loves and admires his partner. It was an effusive post about their relationship that just struck me as categorically false. Why? Because he’s been in my DMs through the majority of that relationship. While I’ve never encouraged this in any way, I have been given the impression that I am someone he would be with if I was open to it — this man who publicly proclaims he is “so in love” with his partner.
