Helping Men Overcome Their Fear of Women

Giving someone else what you were deprived of can constitute an important part of the healing.

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Awareness

Awareness alone is not enough to bring about change, but becoming aware of your fears of women will likely set the process of change in motion. For men, I suggest you try carrying around the idea that you are afraid of women as a standing question that you pose to yourself any time you think it might be relevant. Is it possible that I feel fear in this interaction with my partner? It seems to be that I am mostly angry, but might there be fear underneath that anger? I particularly encourage you to consider the possibility that you are scared of women any time you find yourself defensive or angry, particularly when the level of your defensiveness or anger seems out of proportion to what’s going on. That kind of disproportionate reaction often suggests underlying fear.

Embracing the fear

Embracing your fear simply means allowing yourself to feel whatever you feel, with as few preconceptions about what it should feel like and as little judgment as possible. It may seem odd or even somewhat threatening for me to suggest that the best way for you to resolve your fears of women is to embrace those fears fully. I understand that every…