Here’s Why It Falls Apart After The Honeymoon Phase

And what it should be like instead.

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We’ve all been there. One minute, you’re walking on a cloud in an endlessly exhilarating, new relationship. You’re constantly going out together, you’re checking out new restaurants, you take pictures everywhere you go. People are disgusted with how much time you spend together, but you don’t care because it’s so damn fun.

It’s relentlessly hot and nerve-racking at the same time.

You can’t get enough of each other and you don’t even know why. But you don’t even care to figure it out, either. And you don’t owe each other anything yet — there’s no obligation to call or text, you just do it when you feel like it and it somehow works out.

There’s a sense of looming anxiety that’s always present, but it seems to get resolved on its own. You’re like, “I wonder if I’m going to hear from them today…” and then you do, and it’s just in nick of time. But it’s okay, because it adds to the thrill. Your stomach drops when you see them. Maybe you even yell at each other from time to time, but you don’t care because the make-up sex is amazing.

You’re holding cotton candy and a giant teddy bear, and you’re hearing nothing but slot machine cha-chings and carnival music.