How Avoidantly Attached People Can Have Healthy Relationships
Here’s how
There was a point in my life when I was pretty sure that my type was avoidant men. They didn’t look the same or have the same type of jobs. The one thing they shared was a pathological fear of intimacy and a tendency to spook when anyone got close enough to know them.
For a long time, part of my recovery from relationships involved dodging these types of men. I’d been down that road, and there was no way I was going to spend the rest of my life playing cat-and-mouse with someone in a relationship. But then I thought about it: Am I being unfair to avoidantly attached types?
What is Avoidant Attachment Style?
The Cleveland Clinic defines avoidant attachment style:
“Avoidant attachment can look like an adult who is a “lone wolf” or overly self-sufficient. People with an avoidant attachment style are likely to not delve much into emotional conversations, either in regard to their own feelings or those of others. An avoidant attachment style often stems from a relationship between a primary caregiver and a baby that’s marked by a lack of emotional support or connection.
Adults with an avoidant attachment style can be seen as self-reliant and emotionally guarded. They’re unlikely…
