How Chasing ‘The Spark’ Can Sabotage Finding Lasting Love

A baseline of physical attraction and shared values are enough for a deeper relationship to grow.

Eleni Stephanides
Hello, Love
Published in
5 min readMay 11, 2023

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I’m in my early 30s now, and I remember the first time I dated someone who in retrospect seemed “emotionally available.”

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Eleni Stephanides
Hello, Love

LGBTQ+ writer and Spanish interpreter who enjoys wandering through nature, reading fiction and mental health content, speaking Spanish, and petting cats.