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How Do I Feel More Confident in My Appearance?
Embracing your unique look, boosting self-esteem, and making your personal style work for you.
Dear Dr. NerdLove: I am not an ugly man, but my appearance is far from normal. Now, what I mean by that isn’t that I’m bald or overweight or anything, but if you’ve taken a look at college-age men these days, they tend to have a certain *look* about them. That curly hair, the same completely clean-shaven body, they’re all wearing the same damn athletic wear, it’s a type. And it’s the vast majority of em.
Unfortunately for myself, I do not fit that type. I’ve got long(ish, like halfway down my neck) hair, it’s red(which never helps) and a goatee. I would have a full beard, but genetics have decreed it only grows thickly around my chin and mouth, the rest is too scraggly. Otherwise, I’m a fairly hairy individual. My hands, arms, chest, everything is a veritable forest. Even on my feet, my friends say I have Hobbit feet for how much hair is on em. Now, I’m confident in my appearance. I like how I look, I wouldn’t want to change it, I think I look the best I can for my face and so forth. I stay groomed and hygienic, I always wash my hair, and so forth. But women just don’t dig it. I’ve tried dating apps, and I get like no likes. I’ve tried all…
