How Do I Hold onto Me Without Losing You?
You can preserve your identity despite the apparent sacrifice.
MARRIED TO US NOT ME
From my keystrokes an image of you, my reader, is materializing. I see your eyes. You stare out the window. It is early. The coffee steam slowly creeps from your cup. It is only six in the morning. I see your thoughts wonder. Do you remember what that little girl said on career day in elementary school?
Do you remember her dreams?
Do you feel like you’re losing a part of yourself?
Do you even know what it feels like to be you instead of us?
Many feel this way. Marriage has a way of absorbing identities. Often people know only us. Comfort is the deceiver of identities and its mistress the temptress of convenience. In your quest for security your casualties can be dreams, hopes and aspirations.
WHO ARE YOU!?
You can be you without him. You can be you without your children. We often fail to realize that we are not defined by our tasks. Men are guilty of tying their identity to work. Women are guilty of tying their identity to family.
Many men do not feel like anything without a job.
