How Do I Make Peace With Being Forever Alone?

There are happy singles, people who feel no need to look for a relationship which aren’t aro or ace, so why couldn’t it be me as well?

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By Harris O’Malley

Hello good Doctor,

Not sure how to start, but in short, I’m a straight guy nearing my thirties, and put simply, I’ve given up on love. So I’m not looking for dating advice, but rather advice on how to manage being single. I’ve read the related columns, but I didn’t feel they were enough

For some background, I always knew I was in some ways deficient and just connecting with other people would be a struggle. I wasn’t really hopeless at that point, thinking that maybe I didn’t find the right people, but with time I understood better that this keeps happening regardless of what environment I‘m in, so there is no reason to expect change. One aspect of this was romance, which I’ve been dreaming of from a very young age, but have never been even close to experiencing in my entire life. Not only do I no longer expect to find a woman that could be into me, I see no reason to believe that such a person even exists.

Eventually I realized that this desire in particular causes me a lot of pain (sometimes literal chest pain), while

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