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How I Discovered What I Want From a Man
One thing that was missing from my marriage.
“The sweetest joy, the wildest woe is love.”—Pearl Bailey (actress and singer)
This past year, two men have stood out.
Two guys with one commonality.
If not, I may not have identified what I want from love. And what was missing from my marriage. I felt the same thing with both men that I dated. Despite the two relationships, being vastly different.
I’d smile and say something to one of these men.
“Stop staring at me.”
It made me uncomfortable. I found myself looking away. I wasn’t used to undivided attention, or a man just gazing at me. It carried an intensity of focus I hadn’t known.
A man who was incredibly present.
A man who seemed to see me…all of me…or at least who wanted to.
Fast forward to another man.
Again, they are wildly different experiences and men. They are two very different relationships. One relationship felt intense. The other doesn’t feel serious.
They have only one thing in common.
While on a date with this man we were seated at the bar.
