How I Learned to Trust Men

After a lifetime of feeling mistreated by males, I finally faced the truth: they weren’t to blame. Here’s why.

Sarah Theresa
Sep 21 · 15 min read
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It was a safe way for me to keep the focus off of myself.

It took me years of blaming the opposite sex to realize, they weren’t at fault, I was.

Why did this happen to me?

Much to my disappointment, books, therapists, and academia only put a slight dent in my quest to heal my relationship with a gender I was raised to distrust.

All men are pigs? Really, mom?

Being raised to think that all men want is sex and a lear at your ass in those skinny jeans. Or if they're a leg man, a luscious perusing of your gams in those yoga leggings. Or if they’re a breast man — a glance (or if he’s ballsy, a grab) at your cleavage in that low-cut top he thinks you wore just for him.

Guys, I’m sorry that pig statement exists.

Unraveling our conditioning isn’t a straight and narrow process.

The intention is everything.

An intention can be as simple as, “I want to heal my relationship with men.”

Prepare for a storm!

“Let me learn to love and trust men. Let it start with one man.”

After 5 months of dating, I accepted the proposal of a man I thought I loved.

Red flags are your intuition telling you to STOP! LISTEN! RE-ASSESS!

Has ignoring a red flag ever worked for you? Has it ever worked for any pioneer in history?

I haven't distrusted men, I’ve distrusted my own intuition.

I needed one good man to help me trust my intuition again.

“Sarah, you have done the work needed to heal yourself. Maybe now you just need to trust that he’s out there, and you two will find each other when it’s the right time.”

I think trust is an inside job.

Trust isn’t something you do, it’s something you are.

Accepting my past has empowered my present; it has helped me realize that the only person I ever lost faith in was myself.

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Sarah Theresa

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I write as a soul having a human experience. Former therapist, yoga instructor, and world traveler. www.sarahtheresalamb.com

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

Sarah Theresa

Written by

I write as a soul having a human experience. Former therapist, yoga instructor, and world traveler. www.sarahtheresalamb.com

Hello, Love

Love changes us. Love makes us human.

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