How to Identify Someone With a Secure Attachment Style
The types that make the best romantic partners.
When it comes to a serious relationship, what do you usually look for in a partner? I mean, besides their looks, what are some things that attract you to a person and make you feel like they’re worth your long-term commitment?
Whatever your answer was, you might want to rethink it. Because, what you should first and foremost search for in a partner, is a secure attachment style.
Our attachment styles affect pretty much everything in our relationships. From our partner selection, and our relationship’s progress, to the way we approach and solve its issues and respond to our partner’s needs.
They are developed in childhood, based on the way our parents or primal caregivers cared for us at the time. And as we get older and we start to form romantic relationships, we exhibit the traits of these attachment styles — unless we make a serious effort to change them.
The secure attachment style the only healthy style out of all four. And indeed, secure attachment types make the best romantic partners, because they are confident in themselves, are trustworthy, feel comfortable with intimacy and commitment, and know the importance of boundaries.
