How to Play Hard to Get and Never Be Ghosted Again
It’s a mindset, not a game.
I could see my cousin Lauren’s phone blowing up as we shared a bottle of wine. There were too many notifications to fit the lock screen. She dismissed countless Instagram DMs, text messages, missed calls, Bumble notifications, and Facebook requests as we searched the Internet for the best bars in San Diego. When we used her phone for GPS, I swiped thirteen more notifications.
“How do you do it?” I finally asked her.
“Do what?”
“Get all these people to chase after you like this?”
“I don’t know,” she hesitated, “I’ve never really thought about it before.”
And that, my friends, is the secret.
Stop overthinking it
People try way too hard to play hard to get. It’s a mindset, not a motive. Even after spending the entire weekend together, Lo never mentioned anyone she was interested in. And yet she had the entire population of California pursuing her. “Actually that guy’s from Boston.”
It’s an imbalance of energy, wanting what you can’t have. But here’s the irony. We usually get what we want as soon as we stop pining over it. If you have to ask your friend what to say in a message, you’re doing it wrong…
