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How Your Brain Picks Your Crush!
How your brain makes the choice.
Have you ever found yourself unable to stop thinking about someone? That feeling of being drawn to them, replaying moments in your mind, and daydreaming about what could be — it feels almost magical, doesn’t it? But here’s the kicker: it’s not magic at all. Your brain is running a secret algorithm to decide who you fall for, and trust me, it’s weirder and more fascinating than you think.
Attraction, as it turns out, begins and ends in your brain. Scientists have identified three main systems at play: lust, attraction, and attachment. Think of it as your brain hosting its own reality dating show. Let’s break it down.
The Three Systems of Attraction
Lust: The Initial Spark
Lust kicks in first, driven by hormones like testosterone and estrogen. It’s your brain whispering, “Go find someone.” This primal urge is all about physical desire and the biological drive to reproduce. It’s the spark that gets the ball rolling, but it’s only the beginning.
Lust is often the most straightforward of the three systems. It’s what makes you notice someone’s physical appearance, their scent, or their voice. It’s raw, instinctual, and doesn’t require much emotional investment. However, lust…
