I Cheated on My Husband, and Now I’ll Never Love Someone Again for Their “Potential”
I didn’t want to acknowledge that when someone doesn’t meet our needs, that’s not a reflection on them, but on us.
I never planned to cheat on my first husband.
That’s always the way these stories start out, right? I had already filed for divorce from him. I was lonely. I was uncertain. I felt like we should “try to make it work for the children.”
But then I met someone who was nice to me.
That’s the saddest thing looking back is that all I craved was the bare minimum. This man wasn’t attractive. He didn’t care about me or respect me much, but he was, at times, very nice to me.
I think now that my greatest failure wasn’t in cheating, but in marrying my ex-husband in the first place. It seemed like the right choice at the time. Doesn’t it always?
Except I loved him and married him for his potential, instead of his reality.
I thought marriage would change him, that our wedding vows would turn him suddenly more affectionate, passionate, and communicative. He’d be more complimentary. He’d desire and want me as I thought all…
