I Just Don’t Remember You

Why do people come back after they broke up? Why do we recall some moments with more warmth in our hearts once time passed? Why do we do all of that if all these memories never existed?

Kseniya Kovaleva
Hello, Love

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Wrong memories are one of the most important topics in modern psychology. As I learned from professor Paul Bloom at Yale university, our memory never stores moments, but it always re-creates certain moments when we want to recall them. And the more we talk about certain moments in our lives, the less reality we remember. In fact, while discussing something with our friends, we just vanish our real memories and replace them with the story we’re telling others over and over. Sounds complicated? Makes you surprised? Let’s see at real-life examples.

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The Story That Never Happened

Since I was 16 and my heart was broken for the first time, I enjoyed discussing my private life with friends and family. And what I noticed then — the more I talk about a certain event, the easier it is for me to live through this moment over and over. When I was telling the same story to the person let’s say for the 7th time, I already was feeling nothing. And when I was asked to tell the story for the 9th time let’s say — I simply told just what I told…

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Kseniya Kovaleva
Hello, Love

✏️Journalist with 7 years of work experience.🌍CEO and author of UI/UX design boutique-TheRoom.📌VOGUE ex-intern. Writing for Marie Claire💥