If You Have To Force It, It’s Not For You
Save your energy for what matters.
When I was a teenager, I started dating a guy who had it all: He was smart and kind and very attractive.
At least, that’s what I thought when we first got together.
But several months in, I started noticing a change in him. He stopped being the caring, considerate boyfriend I fell so hard for.
He stopped having the positive outlook I had seen and loved in him.
Suddenly, he became distant. Irritable. Angry, even.
I didn’t understand what was wrong with our relationship. I assumed his behavior was my fault, so I re-doubled my efforts to make it work.
When he stopped coming to see me because he was too “busy” with work, I would cancel other plans and travel 7 hours roundtrip to spend time with him on weekends.
When he stopped making any attempt to interest himself in my life, I still supported him and attended all his events. I would stand in the sidelines and put on a brave face, hoping it would all work out somehow.
When he starting hiding messages from a woman he assured me he no longer cared about, I just held my head up and tried not to cry.
