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I’m Asking Myself This Quintessential Dating Question
Do we leave dating to fate, or actively pursue finding the one?
My guy friend made a comment that made me ponder dating. He thinks I should focus less on it. It made me wonder if I’m forcing things. Maybe I should take a step back. He thinks I should.
It made me ask myself this quintessential dating question.
Should we leave meeting someone to fate?
Or do we actively attempt to find the right person?
What’s the correct answer?
We need to self-reflect to determine our reply to this question. Why? The response may not be the same for each of us. We are all in different aspects of life. Especially those of us who are dating after divorce.
And maybe there’s a balance.
Maybe one can be ‘open’ to meeting someone without actively pursuing it.
Maybe the simple ‘open to the universe’ is enough to attract it.
If I’m honest with myself, I should probably leave it to fate. My friend is correct. I’m forcing it. I’m forcing myself to actively date. I rationalized that I needed to do so.
How else will I meet a man?
