I’m Back with My Ex: Why This Time Will Be Different
When it’s finally the right person AND the right time.
I said never again — and I meant it. I really did. I’d made a list in my head of everything that had gone wrong, and I vowed that I wouldn’t make the same mistakes again. I’d chart a new course — a healthier one.
So why would I go back? Is it that I never learn my lesson? Or did enough factors change that this once bad decision became something reasonable and healthy to consider? Let’s break it down.
When Going Back to An Ex Will Be Different
I didn’t want to make those same mistakes, so I had a long and detailed process for considering the next step — and the next several steps after that. I had to be sure that I was invested in something that would inevitably go up in flames — again. While I loved reading a second-chance love story, I didn’t fully believe in them. But something changed.
I Changed
I’m not the same person as I was the last time. First of all, I’ve had intensive and extensive trauma therapy since then. Many of the things that once triggered my anxiety have been addressed and healed.
If I’m honest, everything crashed and burned last time because I didn’t take this…
