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Learning to Love Smarter, Not Harder
My journey from resentment to acceptance…
I resent a lot of people, especially the ones I love the most. The more I love someone, the more I resent ’em. Does it make me a bad person? I think it simply makes me human because there is no resentment without expectations… and let’s be honest — who do we expect the most from?
Somewhere along the way, we’ve taken the phrase ‘love hard’ too literally — almost like we’re meant to be hard on the people we love.
The moment we enter the world, we start responding to the comfort others offer us — and with that, the chain of expectations begins. It becomes our second nature to seek fulfillment in the actions of those around us.
The deepest resentment often stems from expecting someone to act, look, speak, or love the way we want — and feeling let down when they don’t. But really, there’s a big difference between someone not showing love or respect and just showing it in their own way.
I am not trying to sound preachy — in fact, honestly, consider this piece as a little ‘letter/reminder to myself’. Like you, I am just trying to figure out how to resent less and maybe, expect better — not just for my loved ones, but for myself too.