Marriage Can Survive Sexless Seasons
What it can’t survive is a lack of intimacy.
Marriage can survive a lack of sex for a season — what it can’t survive is a lack of intimacy.
There was a time when I may not have believed this statement. Younger me knew for certain that sexless marriages fail.
There was a time, as well, when I confused sex and intimacy as one and the same.
Over the course of our monogamous 17-plus-year relationship, our sex life has seen the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. And I can tell you that there were times when my husband and I didn’t have intercourse for months, didn’t have partnered sex of any kind for several weeks a stretch, yet we felt more intimate than ever.
What I now know is that intimacy is the key to weathering anything life throws at the two of us — the key to a lasting marriage.
Our relationship started in a flurry of passion. In each other we each found something lacking with our previous partners. I found, in him, a sexual partner fully comfortable with and respecting of my bisexuality; a partner who, for the first time, was concerned with making sure I was having not just a good time but an exceptional experience. As is often the…
