‘My Boyfriend Keeps Pestering Me About My Sexual Past, so I Lie to Him’
Men’s sexual insecurity is zapping the enjoyment out of relationships.
I detest talking about past sexual experiences with any romantic partner I’m involved with, more specifically, getting into nitty-gritty details about numbers, how they performed, and whether I enjoyed having sex with them.
And it’s not because talking about past experiences is necessarily bad; it’s just from my experience, nothing good comes from it. There is almost always going to be an element of comparison and even retroactive jealousy.
Take this post by Redditor Latackda titled, “Am I an asshole for always lying when my BF asks if I slept with someone from the past?”
This is what they wrote:
I am a 35-year-old female, my boyfriend (41) will ask if I slept with someone when I mention anyone from the past. This includes anyone I dated or just went out with a few times. The truthful answer is usually yes — but that has proven to be a problem lol. Now I just say no.
He’s not obnoxiously jealous, but it does make him uncomfortable. I tell him what he wants to hear because I don’t feel guilty about who I was with before him. He would absolutely throw a fit if he found out I wasn’t…
