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My Husband Wanted to Win Arguments
Arguments aren’t meant to be won they’re meant to be resolved
“Colleen,” said my husband. “You’re never going to win.”
I should’ve left the first time I heard him utter these words. Instead, I responded by saying, “If you think there’s winning and losing in love, you’ve already lost.”
My husband may have spoken these words out loud.
But many people operate with this mentality.
It’s exhausting.
It’s frustrating. It can destroy relationships. It can make the person on the other side of the relationship feel crazy. It can make the same argument live on repeat for years.
But that doesn’t deter those who seek to ‘win’ arguments.
Their ego won’t step aside long enough to listen.
A difference of opinion shouldn’t lead to a competition. It should lead to a resolution. If not immediately, with some amount of time. Love shouldn’t be combative.
Years ago, I was told many relationships end because one person emotionally outgrows the other. I would agree. I emotionally outgrew my husband’s exhaustive need to win.
He was physically an adult.
