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My Love Life Has Been Broken for Years. How Do I Turn It Around?
Feeling stuck in your dating life? Discover how to rebuild confidence and create meaningful romantic connections.
Dear Dr. NerdLove:
I’m not sure exactly what this is meant to be. Seeking advice, ranting/venting. But I’ve just got some stuff that I need to say to someone, and it feels too embarrassing to talk to anyone I know about.
My (32M) dating life has been pretty dire for a few years now, and it has had a significant impact on my mental health and wellbeing. I have completely lost confidence in myself and feel utterly undesirable. Any time it seems like something is going my way I get my hopes up again, but when it inevitably fails, I am completely crushed and am unable to get out of bed or do anything for days. I am just stuck there, with all of my failures running through my head, feeling completely worthless.
Yes, I need to go back to therapy, but I recently moved countries and am unemployed and don’t have easy access to that right now.
The thing is, it wasn’t always like this. I’ve never been a true player or anything, but in my 20s I had multiple serious relationships, and did a fair bit of casual dating…
