Never Admitting Fault in Your Marriage
When one of you is wrong and it does matter, you end up minimizing or invalidating your partner’s position.
By Lesli Doares
How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.
- Oscar Wilde
A few weeks ago, I wrote a piece entitled “But First, Listen”. The email subject line? “But she’s wrong….”
In response a good friend sent me a link to an episode of Roseanne when her son-in-law David was talking about how his wife Darlene was wrong about something. Husband Dan kept whispering to him, “it doesn’t matter”.
No matter how David tried to explain it, the response was the same.
It took me back to a conversation my husband had with his co-workers twenty years ago.
A recently married husband was talking about an argument he and his wife had over the preceding weekend. He stated that he knew his wife was wrong. All the men present, in unison, said, “It doesn’t matter.”
Not being able to admit when you are mistaken about something, no matter if you are the husband or the wife, is problematic.
