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Nice Guys Have Always Been the Real Villain

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They’re the antagonists that masquerade as the protagonists.

They sliver around pretty girls in the friend zone, just hoping she’ll let him hit.

They talk shit on guys who have the balls to act and actually try.

We’ve all heard the same tired trope, right?

“women don’t like nice guys.”

But that’s not fucking true it’s not kindness that’s the problem. It’s what you think “nice” entitles you to. If you think being nice entitles you to a woman, you have no idea what it takes to get one.

For some of these men, it’s not their fault; society force feeds you as a young boy that to find a nice girl, you gotta..

“Be nice.”

  • From childhood, boys are taught that if they’re kind, patient and treat a girl well, they’ll “win” her heart — like a prize at the end of a crappy Disney movie.
  • Movies reinforce the idea that persistence (even borderline stalking) and self-sacrificing niceness will eventually “break her down” and make her fall in love.
  • “Happy Wife, Happy Life” Trap — Men are conditioned to believe that pleasing a woman at all costs — without setting boundaries — equals relationship success.
  • “Good Guy vs. Bad Boy” Myth —…

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Trey Hamilton
Trey Hamilton

Written by Trey Hamilton

Author - The First Date Fix - Dating Coach - Content Creator -Dog Dad | follow me for some ramblings of a millennial who has dated. A LOT! TheFirstDateFix.Com

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