Ready to Play This Valentine’s Day?
Our top 10 tips for (play) dates.
Co-authored by Galit Romanelli.
Dating is not easy. Modern dating apps make dating more technical, digital, and industrialized. Therefore, this Valentine’s Day, we’d like to offer a new prism on dating.
You want to be a player?
Singles dream of finding their everlasting soulmate, which is not an easy task. Add to the mix exhaustion from bad dates, previous disappointments, and general anxiety and you’ll get an overall negative association with dating.
Dating has become a game where the goal is to get another date. In this process we lose the play. Game is a binary activity (win/lose) with set rules (what’s allowed and what’s not) with a specific goal in mind. On the other hand, play is a soft perception of reality. Play is a way of being open, vulnerable, and authentic. In fact, play is the lubricant that helps deepen our relationships.
Therefore, our first reframe is moving away from the game of dating, toward play dates. When we were kids, the goal of the play dates was simple: to be yourself, have fun, and play together.
When you get swept up in the game of dating, you’ll self-present, trying to exhibit the prettiest, most sensitive, intelligent version of…
