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Realizing My Avoidant Attachment Style: A Journey Toward Healing, Love, and Honest Connection
Discover how avoidant attachment patterns manifest in romantic relationships, especially when paired with a fearful avoidant partner. Learn what it takes to heal, communicate better, and rebuild trust in love.
I Thought I Was Just “Independent” — Until I Saw the Patterns
Like many women, I was raised to be strong, self-sufficient, and grounded in my faith. I know my worth. I’ve done the affirmations, the journaling, the therapy. I’ve held space for others, nurtured, supported, and uplifted everyone around me. So, imagine my surprise when I realized I too had avoidant tendencies, especially during emotional overwhelm.
For the longest time, I thought I was simply guarded because of the ways I’d been hurt. And I have been hurt. I don’t tolerate disrespect, and I refuse to be discarded. I crave deep connection, comfort, and protection — yet, I found myself retreating when things got too close, too intense, or too real.
This realization hit me hardest after a long-term relationship with someone who exhibited fearful avoidant traits. I was…
