Relationship Disconnection: Unraveling the Attachment Cycle

Understanding Your Attachment Cycle in 5 Steps

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By Kyle Benson

This article was originally published on Kylebenson.net

In the intricate web of human relationships, delving into the attachment bonds that weave our interactions is key to unlocking secure relationships.

Within emotionally focused couples therapy, we often encounter reoccurring attachment cycles — a pattern that can act as a virus, infecting the emotional connection within a relationship and giving rise to feelings of disconnection and loneliness.

Identifying Three Attachment Cycles of Disconnection:

These attachment cycles are adapted from Dr. Sue Johnson’s “Demon Dialogues” as explained in her book Hold Me Tight(R).

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap:

The Anxious-Avoidant Trap manifests when one partner takes on the role of the “anxious protester,” while the other adopts the role of the “avoidant withdrawer.” This attachment cycle emerges in response to unmet…

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