RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
Signs You’re in a Relationship Out of Convenience
Do you feel like you’re being treated like a 7-Eleven?
She likes you, but not as much as necessary. She only said yes because she didn’t want to be alone or she felt obligated to do so. Besides, you have something that you can give her without question, so she agreed to a relationship that she didn’t want in the first place.
Like a 7-Eleven, you feel like she’s using you out of convenience. And now, you’re questioning if this relationship is indeed worth the risk.
Honestly, it’s difficult to be in this kind of situation. You start questioning whether the relationship is worth it or not. The clear answer, however, is “no, it is not worth it.” Best if you get out of it while you haven’t invested too much time and emotions.
But before you make a decision, you need to be sure if you’re really in a relationship out of convenience or you’re just imagining things. Here are some signs to look out for:
1. She doesn’t make you a priority.
A partner that genuinely cares will devote reasonable time to your relationship. She will fit you on her schedule, no matter how busy she gets. She will go out of her way to be there when you need her. If she can’t, she will give you enough reasons to make you understand her situation.
Meanwhile, a partner who doesn’t care will not make any effort. If you have a date, she may or may not come. She will give you a thousand reasons not to be there when you need her.
2. She doesn’t connect with you on a deeper level.
Your relationship should not only be about physical intimacy. There are more things to consider, such as spiritual, intellectual, experiential, and emotional bonds. Without these, there’s a distinct lack of passion — no strong familiarity that connects you with your partner.
3. She makes significant decisions without asking your opinion.
You need to make decisions as a couple. It’s not about “me,” it’s now about “we.” Because whatever you do, it will affect every area of your relationship.
Think of it this way. If you are given a job in another country, you may need to move locations. This will affect your intimacy and time together, so you certainly need to ask your partner her opinions.
However, if she makes significant decisions without asking you beforehand, it’s a huge sign that she’s not serious about your relationship at all. Why? Because she clearly doesn’t consider your feelings.
4. She’s not adding anything to your life.
Relationships are a two-way street. It’s a give and take. You don’t have all the time in the world to provide your partner with everything she needs. She also has to reciprocate your feelings. Of course, this is not something that you should force on her, but if she’s really into you, she will show her support without being asked to.
5. She’s not talking about your future.
When you are in love, you plan your future with your partner without you noticing it. It’s the way humans are wired. You are not moving backwards or staying stagnant, rather you think of new possibilities with your special someone.
Certainly, it’s normal to have slow progress in any type of relationship. Some want to settle everything in their personal lives first before talking about marriage. Others want to directly discuss these matters. However, if your partner doesn’t talk about your future together, then you undoubtedly need to reconsider your relationship.
What To Do
Confront your partner and talk things through. As they say, it’s best to pull the band-aid straight away rather than slowly rip it apart. So, if you don’t see eye to eye, it’s best to part ways. You deserve better.
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